How Parental Narcissism and Alienation Shaped Her Life.

***Trigger warning: narcissism,child sexual abuse She is a survivor of years of systematic parental narcissism and alienation. She believes that it is the root cause of all the pain that she has endured. For one thing, her threshold for tolerating abuse and pain ( physical, mental and emotional) is markedly high than average beings. But…

A little less self-focussed, a little more caring

  I remember last year, we were at my daughter’s friend’s birthday party. It was a ‘Frozen’ themed party. The enthusiastic parents had left no stone unturned in giving their daughter, a birthday of her dreams. A spacious banquet hall of a four-star hotel was booked. They adorned it with shiny silver and aqua curtains,…

The sad story of a Peanut butter cake

I painstakingly make a whole wheat peanut butter cake with peanuts caramelized in brown sugar/jaggery…. And my daughter says “I don’t want it.” I claim that it’s healthy and that I am sending it as tiffin to school. She replies, “but I don’t like peanuts. Make me something else.” It was only two days back…

How I Transformed From A Breastfeeding Zealot Into Someone With More Empathy Towards New Mothers

Most mothers may find breastfeeding very easy. But for others like me,the struggle has been very real. http://m.huffingtonpost.in/subha-sunny/how-i-transformed-from-a-breastfeeding-zealot-into-someone-with-more-empathy-towards-new-mothers_a_23352870/ When I was expecting my first child, I was determined to breastfeed her. I had read a lot regarding the subject and had made up my mind for the purpose at hand. But I had actually underestimated…

Why I am a blended mama

Recently I realized that I am a mix between a helicopter and a dolphin. ┬áSometimes I tend to be a helicopter mama, more because of the fact that I hover around my kid, and less because I am an aviator’s wife. (Well, my husband flies a helicopter, but that doesn’t ‘qualify’ him to be a…