How to Find Your Next Right Thing When Everything Feels Important
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When everything feels important, figuring out your next right thing can feel almost impossible.
The work deadline matters. The appointment you need to schedule matters. The laundry matters. Your family matters. That project you’ve been putting off matters. Taking care of yourself matters. And somewhere in there, you’d also really like five quiet minutes with God without mentally running through your to-do list.
When everything feels important, our instinct is often to try to hold onto all of it a little tighter.
I think we need to do the opposite.
We need to get it out of our heads and onto paper, create a little space, and figure out what actually needs our attention next.
Not everything.
Just next.
When My Own List Starts Feeling Too Heavy
I can usually tell when one area of my life is beginning to throw everything else off balance.
For me, it’s often my day job.
I typically work a 40-hour week, and I can handle the occasional longer day or crazy week. But when those longer hours start happening consistently and work begins creeping into my personal time, everything else starts to feel stressful too.
That’s the season I’m in again right now.
I’m training a new employee, and this coming week I also have three days filled with meetings. Realistically, I’m not going to get much of my normal work done during those three days.
So on Friday, before the crazy week even started, I sat down and made a list. And yes, I have an entirely separate journal just for my day job. I think this bird one would be perfect for those days when you just want to say “this is for the birds…”, right??
Back to Friday… I pulled together things from the past few weeks that I don’t want to lose track of while my attention is elsewhere. I put a few high-priority items at the top because I know I need to watch for certain emails even while I’m sitting in meetings.
Then I left myself room to add the inevitable things that will pop up this week.
Will everything on that list get done this week?
Nope.
That’s not the point.
The point is that I don’t have to keep remembering it.
When the meetings are over and I finally have time to get back into my normal work, I already have a place to begin.
And that is one of the biggest reasons I still love paper planning.
A good planning system doesn’t magically give you more hours in the day.
It gives the things you’re carrying somewhere else to live besides your brain.
Pause: Get It Out of Your Head
When I’m overwhelmed, one of my first steps is usually a brain dump in my dot-grid journal.
And I do mean dump.
This isn’t the time for perfect handwriting, cute stickers, categories, or figuring out where everything belongs. I just start writing.
Tasks. Appointments. Things I need to remember. Things I’m worried I’ll forget. Projects I’ve started. Things I’ve been meaning to do for three weeks. Random thoughts taking up entirely too much mental real estate.
Get. It. Out.
Sometimes I also talk things through with my husband. Sometimes I spend a little time praying about what really needs my attention.
And sometimes?
I put the whole thing down and go for a walk.
Because pausing doesn’t always mean sitting down with your planner and trying harder. Sometimes you need enough space between you and the noise to actually see what’s going on.
Planning tool I use: This is one reason I love keeping a dot-grid journal with my planner. It gives me an unrestricted place to think on paper without worrying about whether something belongs in a particular box.
Prioritize: Everything on the List Is Not Equally Important
Once everything is visible, I can usually see my priorities pretty quickly.
But this is also where a lot of us get stuck.
Because when you’re overwhelmed, everything can feel urgent.
It isn’t.
If you’re struggling to figure out what belongs at the top, try looking at your list through a few different lenses.
Start with actual deadlines.
What has a real deadline attached to it?
Not an imaginary deadline you’ve created because you thought you “should” have it done by now. A real one.
Bills have due dates. Work projects have deadlines. Appointments happen at specific times. Your teenager may announce at 9 p.m. that she needs something tomorrow morning. Bless it.
Those things deserve consideration first because time has already made part of the decision for you.
Look at the consequences.
Ask yourself:
What happens if I don’t do this right now?
Some tasks have real consequences. Others simply get moved to another day.
Those are not the same thing.
This can be especially helpful when ten things are screaming “URGENT!” in your head. Instead of asking which one feels loudest, ask which one actually has consequences if you wait.
Ask what matters in this season.
Important doesn’t always mean urgent.
There may be something on your list that doesn’t have a deadline at all but matters deeply because of the season you’re in.
Time with your family. Your health. Your faith. A relationship that needs some attention. Rest.
Those things don’t always send reminder notifications.
That doesn’t make them less important.
Try an urgent/important sort.
If you need something more visual, divide a page into four sections:
- Urgent + important
- Important + not urgent
- Urgent + not important
- Not urgent + not important
Then start sorting.
You may discover that some of what has been taking up the most mental space doesn’t actually deserve the most attention.
And you might discover something else, too:
Some things don’t need to be prioritized at all.
They need to be released.
Plan: Give Everything a Place to Live
Once I’ve decided what matters, I start putting things where they belong.
This is where having different pieces in my planning system really helps.
My monthly insert lets me see the bigger picture: appointments, commitments, deadlines, travel, and other things that affect my capacity.
My weekly insert helps me narrow that view. What am I actually working with this week?
And my Active Projects insert gives larger projects their own space so they don’t have to live as one vague, intimidating line on my weekly to-do list.
Your calendar matters here, too—but I don’t believe your calendar should be judge and jury.
Mine is a guide and a reminder.
It keeps important things visible so I’m not expending energy trying to remember where I’m supposed to be, what deadline is coming, or what I’m supposed to be working on.
Then I can look at the space that’s actually available and make decisions accordingly.
Because a 15-item to-do list doesn’t magically create 15-item capacity.
If Tuesday is packed with meetings, appointments, school activities, and life, I’m not going to pretend I also have six hours for projects just because I wrote them in my planner.
That’s not planning.
That’s wishful thinking with cute stationery. 😉
What about everything else?
Not everything from your brain dump needs to move onto this week’s plan.
Some things go into a Parking Lot for later.
Some things get moved to another week or month.
Some ideas need a little more time before you decide whether you want to pursue them.
And some things?
Toss ’em.
You are allowed to decide that something you once intended to do no longer deserves your time.
Not now doesn’t always mean never. But sometimes? It absolutely can.
Practice: Work the Plan You Made
Eventually, you have to stop rearranging the list and actually do something on it.
This is the Practice part of Pause → Prioritize → Plan → Practice.
Choose your next right thing and begin.
Not your next 17 things.
One.
Then come back to the plan and choose again.
And remember that the plan can change.
An unexpected phone call happens. Someone gets sick. A meeting gets added. Work explodes. Your energy disappears by 2 p.m. for absolutely no reason you can identify.
Life continues to be life.
One of my favorite tools for keeping plans flexible is transparent sticky notes. I can jot down temporary tasks, reminders, or tentative plans and move them without rewriting an entire page. They’re especially handy when I know something needs my attention but I’m not completely sure where it will fit yet.
Your planner is supposed to support your life—not require your life to cooperate with your planner.
The Planning Tools That Help Me Carry Less
I don’t use planning products because I need more places to write more things I should be doing.
Quite the opposite.
I use them because each tool gives something I’m carrying a home.
My dot-grid journal gives me room to think, brain dump, journal, and work through the mess before I try to organize it.
My monthly and weekly inserts keep my time and commitments visible so I can make decisions based on my actual capacity.
My Active Projects insert gives the bigger things I’m working toward a dedicated home without cluttering up my everyday plans.
And my beloved transparent sticky notes give me flexibility when life refuses to follow the schedule I so kindly made for it. 😂
You don’t necessarily need my exact system.
But if your current planning system isn’t helping you get things out of your head, see what matters, and know what to do next, it may be time to rethink the tools you’re using.
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You Only Need to Know What’s Next
If you’re staring at a season where everything feels important, don’t start by trying to figure out how you’re going to do it all.
Grab a blank page.
Set a timer for 10 minutes and write down everything you’re carrying.
Then pause.
Look at what’s actually urgent. Look at what matters in this season. Look at your real capacity—not the imaginary version of you who apparently has unlimited time, energy, and clean laundry.
Say a quick prayer if you need to. Take the walk if you need to.
Then ask yourself:
What is my next right thing?
Choose it.
Write it down.
Do that.
Then you can come back and choose again.
Your planner doesn’t need to hold everything you could possibly do.
It needs to help you see what matters enough to do next.
And sometimes, that’s all the plan you need. 💜
Additional Reading
Stop Waiting for the Perfect Plan: Take the Next Right Step
How to Prioritize Your Week: Put Your Tasks in the Right Order